Some days my inner fat girl wins
Posted by JosieFeb 3
Remember the other day when I was talking about emotions? and how I could no longer pretend like my weight-loss journey was merely a physical challenge unaffected by anything mental or emotional? Well, today was very tumultuous for me, both physically and mentally. So, here I am tonight, entering brand new territory on my blog as I share some of the innermost thoughts I had today.
For some reason, I woke up and felt very heavy. I don’t know how well I can explain this feeling, but I’ll try. Since I started working out and increasing my strength and endurance, I’ve noticed that I walk around a little taller. A little more confident. A little faster. A little lighter. On those days I feel strong and capable and my presence reflects that. Today was the opposite and I don’t know why, but I just felt sluggish, incompetent, weak, and for lack of a better word, heavy. As a result, loads of self doubt crept in and I was asking myself questions like “who are you kidding? you really think that you will ever be able to run a marathon?” All day I found myself looking down at my belly rolls and thinking how delusional I was to ever think that someday they wouldn’t be there. I’m an all or nothing kind of gal and I just kept telling myself that even IF I get down to my goal weight I will still have rolls of loose skin, stretch marks, etc. I must have went to the restroom 10 times during the work day just to look at my face up close in the mirror investigating new lines that seem to have appeared overnight. Are they a result of the weight I’ve lost so far? Will they get worse as I lose more like I’ve seen on other women who’ve lost a lot of weight? (Like Tracy, from the BL last season) Would I be better off staying fat so that at least the skin on my face will stay smooth for a few more years? Then I’d look down at my feet in frustration at just how ugly they looked today. I used to love the way my feet looked in sandals, but now I just have fat, old lady feet that are all hardened on the bottom and blegh. How would they look once I lost the weight? They’ll never be back where they were 100 pounds ago so what’s the point? That’s a lot of self-doubt for one day, I know.
I’m not posting all of this to elicit sympathy from anyone. Trust me, it’ll be very hard for me to hit that “publish” button once I’m done. I just feel like this struggle is sometimes harder than the struggle of whether or not to eat that cookie. I find it easier now to resist soda than I do to accept myself. As my struggles evolve, so should my blog.
This turmoil that plagued me today not only affected my demeanor, but also my eating and exercise, which was non-existent. Lunch was ok, but for dinner my husband cooked mashed potatoes. Some of you might remember how I had to have a Plan B (and C) for Thanksgiving last year (and I did SO well that day) because mashed potatoes are a great weakness of mine. “Trigger food” if you will. Well, I decided to have a portion of them tonight and it certainly triggered something in me to have more…and more. And then after dinner I had pudding. And nachos. And THREE glasses of sweet tea. (I normally only drink water, with an occasional tea probably once a week, never more than one glass a day, so this was a lot of sugar for me today.)
So yes, I had a rough day. Deep down inside I know I’m capable, it’s just hard sometimes to realize it. I can see the progress I’ve made, not only in pictures, but also in how much I can do now compared to four months ago. I’m able to walk faster and farther. I can jog now. I am in kickboxing. I’m drinking almost 100 oz of water a day on average, and that’s coming from someone who used to drink two 2-liters of Pepsi a day. It’s like my head sees the progress and knows I’m capable but convincing my soul is turning out to be a much more difficult task than I ever thought it would be.
Some days my inner fat girl wins and today was one of those days. I have to keep telling myself that I am capable…that it WILL be worth it…and maybe, just maybe I can reach a point where my inner fat girl doesn’t have a voice anymore – at least not one that has any control in my life.
39.1 miles walked/jogged/ran since January 1st. (2010 Goal: 500)
6.4 miles biked since January 1st. (2010 Goal: 300)
(1) 5K finished since January 1st. (2010 Goal: 12)






Thanks Diane!!!
18 comments
Comment by Craig on February 4, 2010 at 12:04 AM
Thanks for sharing this Josie…very well put together post. I’m no diet or health expert by any means…in fact all I can say is I have these days very often, too. Do you ever have days where you feel like this and it feels like your clothes fit tighter than they did a day or two before? That was me today. It’s funny you mention that you kept going to the bathroom and checking your reflection–I was doing that same walk to the bathroom today and monitoring how my pants were fitting. I went at least 3 times that I can remember. Something was just bugging me about it. Ugh. So the heavy days have the same effect on me and it influences my eating too. So I totally know how you feel.
With that being said, I think you know how well you’ve done lately–you’ve been losing weight so well and your workouts–well Hellloooo you are the one that inspired me to bump up my mileage a little and attempt jogging again. I’m still no good at it, but everyday I try to do that .25 “for Josie” because I remember how good for you I felt that day you did it. I hope tomorrow is better for you…a “lighter” day if you will…and when you have these days remember how many people you inspire on here and how many of us are cheering you on!
Comment by Lynne Garcia on February 4, 2010 at 12:05 AM
Hey there… oh my God, how I relate to this. If you are still up and want to talk call me. I’m here and I’m up late. You can always call me any time. I know you will pull out of this, you are so strong. In the meantime push through, knowing that you are doing well, you are strong and you are beautiful. I love you girl!
Comment by South Beach Steve on February 4, 2010 at 7:29 AM
Josie, we have been following each other long enough that you probably already know what I am going to say, but I will say it anyhow. Sometimes I think down days like this are necessary to put in perspective where we really are. They also tend to have a bit of a rebound affect, which you seem to already be ready for. It doesn’t mean that we like it, nor does it mean that it is good for our weekly loss, but if it cements in our mind, even for just a time, that we are doing the right thing and we have to keep at it, then it is worth it.
Just remember, you can do it. YOU can do it! YOU CAN DO IT! Josie, it is so worth it.
Comment by Steve on February 4, 2010 at 7:40 AM
You ARE capable, and it WILL be worth it!
Everyone has days like this, you can be on a super awesome kick, and then BAM! Inner fat boy/girl will come along and try to f*ck with your head. Thankfully with each day in this journey you are getting more and more strength the put him/her back in her place.
You’re gonna do this, you’re gonne run a marathon, and you’re gonna kick butt all around. W00T!
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Comment by Hilary on February 4, 2010 at 10:23 AM
I can relate to what you’ve written about here . . . There is a voice inside us that wants to tell us there is no point to doing what we’re doing, because we won’t be all perfect and “fixed” when it is done. At least, that’s what the “fat girl voice” tells me. “Why bother trying, you’ll never look/be the ideal . . . what’s the point of all this work?” I do my best to question that voice or at least ride out those days and hope for a better tomorrow, because I just know there is a huge flaw in that argument.
This is about so much more than looks, after all; it’s about even more than numbers like our cholesterol and blood pressure. It is about doing what we said we would do and keeping a commitment to ourselves, because we are strong people with free will. It’s hard for me to articulate, and I apologize for that.
Stay strong, Josie. I know you know it’s worth it to keep going
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Comment by Lynne on February 4, 2010 at 10:38 AM
I was thinking about you this morning, and praying for you. I know today will be a better day. I thought I would write something to you to let you know how I see you… you are awesome girl. I put it in a “10 point list” type format because we do so many things like that. It just seems to grab our attention.
Ten things that make Josie one of the most awesome people that I know:
1. Josie always brings a smile to my face.
2. Josie is one of the strongest people I know.
3. Josie is quiet but very bold. You can see Josie’s courage.
4. Josie is an amazing mom… wow, what an example she is. I’m learning from her
5. Josie is beautiful… inside and out, upside and down… every part of her.
6. Josie is forgiving… I know this from experience. She’s been my greatest example this past year of God like grace. Thinking about it brings tears to my eyes.
7. Josie is an athlete… yes she is. I’m not sure she believes this yet but she already is.
8. Josie keeps me motivated without needing to say much. She’s my example.
9. Josie has been vital on my own journey to becoming an athlete… I believe she was sent by God at the right time, when I was ready. I believe, by definition that means she’s an angel here on earth.
10. Josie will succeed… Josie will kick butt… Josie will change the lives of many, as she has changed mine.
11. Josie is very loved… by her family, me, and many friends.
12. Josie will have more than 10 points on a list like this because she’s “over the top FREAKING AWESOME” in so many ways.
I love you girl! I cannot wait until Saturday.
Comment by Erin on February 4, 2010 at 10:53 AM
Josie, let me just tell you that Lynn’s comment above mine has me teary eyed. You are all those things, and more!
WHEN you get to goal weight, yeah, mayble there will be some skin and stretch marks that hang around, but isn’t that worth your ABILITY to run a marathon and wear your goal weight jeans? Your feet have been carrying you for years and they CAN and WILL be free of the hardness and “blegh” – give ‘em some TLC, you work ‘em hard! Your face is always beautiful, Josie, whether it’s wrinkled or baby butt smooth. Acceptance of our “in between” bodies is though, because it’s temporary, although it may not seem like it.
So yesterday was rough. We all have those inner fat kid days. Let’s focus on today. One day at a time. One hour or minute at a time, if you need it. Remember that you are determined, strong and CAPABLE and you WILL succeed in this! Love ya, girl!
Comment by beej on February 4, 2010 at 11:08 AM
Wow, Josie. Your post sure moved me…and then I read Lynne’s comment above, and I also got teary-eyed! I know, I’m a sap.
I think it’s interesting how that darned inner voice can beat us sometimes. I’m sure going through that now. It’s funny, but do you think it’s compliments that get our inner fattie to come out? I’m sure that you’ve been lots of well-deserved comments (you’d better be–you look great!!). And I’ve been getting lots of comments about “how great” I look. But here’s the thing. I don’t feel it. I still feel like that 368.4 pound tubbo, you know?
But here’s the thing. You’re strong. You’re amazing. You are a beautiful person–no matter how much you weigh or how many wrinkles you have. And more that that, you’re a child of God, He who lovingly created you.
Looking forward to reading about your rebound!
Comment by AndrewENZ on February 4, 2010 at 11:18 AM
We all have these types of days. Well…I don’t listen to my inner fat girl.
The key thing is just to keep on keeping on. It is worth it and you know it.
Comment by Lynne on February 4, 2010 at 1:08 PM
I vote for a group hug!!!!!!!!
Or would it be a group squishy? Love you girl. And Erin, you made me cry!
Comment by Fran on February 4, 2010 at 2:44 PM
Thanks for sharing Josie. I know exactly how you must have felt. Maybe it helps that you know that you’re not alone with those feelings. I have them too every now and then. I’m sure that by the time you’re reading this you are feeling much better already.
Comment by Jody - Fit at 52 on February 4, 2010 at 5:36 PM
YOU ARE WORTH IT!!! And, a few extra lines on the face is better than a less wrinkly face in the grave, right! I hate to be that blunt but being overweight can lead to many many health related deaths! I saw this self sabotage post on Crank Fitness today… not saying you are doing that BUT so many of us do when we get closer to our goals & the fear of failure or everyone’s else’s expectations start to screw with our mind. Why don’t you check it out.
You have done so well & these are typical bumps in this journey. You can get past them!
Comment by Kat on February 4, 2010 at 9:59 PM
Wow, I ditto Erin’s comment about Lynn’s comment. Josie, you rock! You have such a beautiful spirit. It sounds like today was challenging. I am glad you are sharing your emotions because once you share them, they are expressed abd their power goes away. I can so relate to much of what you have written about. I know that I will have sagging skin when I am done with this process. I try not to worry about it now. I can figure it out then. You just keep doing what you have been doing and you are going to meet your goals. There will be challenging days. The cool thing is that tomorrow is always a new day and a new opportunity to make better choices. Here’s to making good choices tomorrow. Ping me if you need support. xoxo
Comment by Robin on February 5, 2010 at 10:51 AM
I won’t lie, it helps to know others struggle too. Especially those like you who seem to be so ahead in the game.
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